General information about abuse

Why women do not leave abusive relationships

She does not leave due to:

• Fear of retaliation by partner
• Lack of support from the community
• Economic concerns - Where will I live?

At some level, a woman weighs the relative costs and benefits for herself. Usually this process is not organized or conscious. She may have thoughts whirling around her head such as the following:

If I leave:

• he may find me and be more violent.
• he may hurt other people.
• I'll have to give up my home, all my possessions, and my financial security.
• I'll be able to live free of violence, if he doesn't come after me.
• my children will no longer be exposed to violence.
• I will be totally responsible for myself and the children.
• I'll have to admit my marriage failed.
• where will we live?
• who will I go to for support?
• I might have to move to another community.

If I stay

• they say the violence gets worse, but won't in our case.
• the children are being exposed to this.
• I have financial security.
• I am married.
• I have some support.

General Information about Abuse - Continued: Definitions of abuse Some things you should know What can you do if you have been abused? What are some of the warning signs? What do we know about abusers? Effects of abuse on women and children.

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